OUR ROLE IS NOT TO TALK OUR CHILDREN OUT OF THEIR FEELINGS
We need to give children the message that all feelings are valid, including our own.
It’s hard. I know it is.
We are flooded in our own feelings and thoughts, and suddenly, without warning, a scream breaks through our quiet rumination over something we should have let go.
It’s unconscious, but real. We have no idea why we get so distressed over the thoughts we were processing but no longer remember. We get caught up on the fact that we were interrupted.
“What was I thinking?”
On top of that brain confusion, thoughts, tasks, social media, news… the scream. The demands. The requests. The house, dishes, uncertainty.
We pause. We self-observe. A daily exhaustive practice...deep breaths.
“I see you are upset, and I also feel this way when something makes me uncomfortable”
Self-observation. Something I did not learn as early as I wish but has been more and more necessary as I sail the strong waves of motherhood.
I realized my role is to model self-observation, but in order to do that, I know I must practice it myself… fail and try again.
Getting to know ourselves cannot be postponed.